Hurt and Rejection – How to Get Past Painful Emotions
When an act of physical violence is thrust upon a person, the first reaction is to protect oneself. The hands immediately cover the face, stomach or other vital areas; the upper body leans away in retreat or curls over in protection..
In the same way, the intense emotions of hurt or rejection can evoke a neurological reaction. The hands cover the face, stomach or other vital area. The upper body can lean back to minimize the shock or curl up to minimize discomfort. .
Hurt and Rejection – Physical Pain Verses Emotional Discomfort
Physical pain stimulates pressure to nerve ending. Once you get punch, there will be a sting from the stimulation. Emotional pain stimulate the relationship of those things we have become attached to or hold sensitivities on. Once emotional discomfort has been activated. there is a neurological disruption in the body’s energy flow. These neurological sensations will be felt for a while, until the disruption settles down. The differences between physical pain and emotional pain, is that our neurology does not distinguish between what actually happens and what we vividly create in our own nervous system.
Most people flinch when a hand is thrown towards their face. This is a learned response, one protecting us. When personal expectations or assumptions have been violated, our emotions let us know something important has occurred, an emotional reaction telling us something painful is occurring and we need to pay attention
No one wants to deal with hurtful situations any more than they want to be rejected. While everyone’s level of sensitivity is different and the responses themselves can be triggered automatically, we do have a say in how we process these emotions. It’s useful to view how we deal with rejection and hurt as learned responses. In doing so, it begins giving us levels of choice and control over our own sensitivities. Meaning how we process our emotions can be changed. What we place importance on can be changed and how quickly we release these emotions can also be changed.
If your sensitivities, your emotions, your perceptions don’t support you, if you find yourself overwhelmed in situations you feel you can’t control or do something about, then its time to change the patterns you’ve been operating under, so hurt and rejection are not controlling your life. Left unchecked, repressed hurt can lead to erratic bouts of anger.
If there are times other celebrate and you feel disconnected or confused, isolated or depressed, then you know your sensitivities are not in alignment with your capabilities or perceptions and it is time to make some changes. Regardless of whether you only feel it during the holidays, in the company of others or when you are alone, it is not what you want to feel.
Your thoughts and emotions should support you, not control you. Unexpected and challenging events will occur in life. You will be out of alignment with the wants and desires of others. Sometimes we can prepare for events, most of the time we can not. Hurt and rejection are part of life, but there is no reason we have to get stuck in these feelings. Emotions are a gift we have all been given, even if it doesn’t always feel that way. If these feelings are consistent, it may be time to rearrange the patterns of thinking and emotional you’ve been operating under.
Hurt and rejection can be viewed as programs that will continue to react the same way until you change how you hold on to things, change how you want things to be, how you process the interactions and interpretation you make for yourself and others or how effective you are at taking the needed actions to support yourself.
Make a Change in Yourself – Give Yourself Emotional Freedom to Make Choices
Making the change need not be difficult if you understand how your mind and nervous system works and how you can effectively put this into use. At Designed Thinking we specialize in helping clients make changes in unwanted patterns. When you change how you think; you change how you act, you change how you feel
If you’ve had trouble dealing with your emotions and know it is time to regain control of your emotions, be it anger, guilt, grief or sadness, it can be done right in the comfort of your own home. Call our toll free number 866-718-9995. It’s never too late when your are ready to change.
